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Be Independent

June 12, 2008

“Nature never said to me: Do not be poor; still less did she say: Be rich; her cry to me was always: Be independent.” Sébastien-Roch Nicolas De Chamfort

Some people are afraid of the word independence, as if it would mean being alone. That’s misinterpreting, of course, but it could often mean standing alone. This is not the same as loneliness, but simply that you are strong in and by yourself, in your faith, in your convictions. It also means that you’re always on the move, going forward, trying to accomplish things. With a sure knowledge of who you really are, you’re unbound from the ties of group pressure, free to set your own path, while those around you might chose another route, or just be hanging about. (See photo)

Being alone is in and of itself not a negative state. It all depends on the relationship you have with yourself. Because if you like the person you´re with, you cannot be lonely.

Having said that, I believe in trying to live a life in balance. It’s easy to take independency to its extremes, meaning that we become to proud to listen to others, or accept help (and even give) when needed. This is also the wrong way to go, because we do need each other. We’re certainly not living life only for our owns sakes – far from it. Maybe I could summarize in these words:

Being independent is being strong in the world, but not physically or emotionally isolated from it.

What do you think?

3 Comments leave one →
  1. Lena Hagen permalink
    June 12, 2008 22:49

    Hei Louis! Veldig flott skrevet igjen! Jeg er selv en veldig selvstendig person men som alle andre er jeg også sårbar og kan både gi og ta i mot råd og hjelp utenfra. Det er ingen som har godt av å stå helt alene hele tiden.

    Av sikkerhetsmessige årsaker valgte jeg å bryte ut og stå alene med ansvaret for mitt barn, fordi jeg mener at ingen har rett til å sette et lite barns liv i fare. Min datters ve og vel vil alltid komme først, og jeg er nok enda ikke helt klar til å stole helt på en mann igjen. Inntil tiden er moden klarer vi oss veldig fint alene.Heldigvis har jeg en helt enestående familie rundt meg og jeg har heller ikke noe behov for fest og turer ut på byen. Selvfølgelig håper jeg at det en gang i fremtiden dukker opp en mann som kan være hos meg livet ut, selv om den mannen nok vil få litt å bryne seg på stakkar (har jo fått masse bein i nesa disse årene som enslig).

    Fortsett å skrive Louis, koser meg virkelig med Bloggen din!

  2. June 12, 2008 18:50

    HEJ LOUIS,I WILL SAY THAT YOU SUMMARIZE IT SO BEAUTIFUL, SO I STAY MOUTHLAMB.I CAN ONLY SAY THAT I LIKE THE LINE WHERE YOU WRITE, IF YOU LIKE THE PERSON YOU`RE WITH YOU CANNOT BE ALONE. HUGS FROM ME LENE MARIE

  3. June 12, 2008 14:09

    I think you summarize well. Independence brings out that special beauty in each person. I believe I was on to the same thought in my post “Standing out from the ordinary” some days back (don’t know if you read that)

    Every now and then, being independent does mean standing alone, something that takes both courage and strength, being able to trust yourself and follow your heart even when people around you may disapprove.

    But again, balance is the keyword, because you’re absolutely right; we do need each other. Still that doesn’t mean we have to be dependent on one another, as this would stop us from growing and developing our true colors.

    Linda

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